Are You Truly In love?-by Ptr. Clem

A. PITFALLS IN BELIEVING THAT YOU ARE IN LOVE
1. Falling in love with love is not true love(love at first sight)
a. it is effortless in your part
b. it is loneliness or a desire to be happy
c. it is not a function of the will


2. Romantic love-where emotions controls the person's action
"high emotions pero hindi ginagamit ang isip"


3. Dependency needs- appreciating someone's kindness to you but not necessarily being in love with the person.


B. POINTERS TO HELP US KNOW THAT WE ARE TRULY IN LOVE
1. spend time knowing the person
"DON'T decide too quickly."
2. be observant in various situations and circumstances.
"look for character and attitudes in stressful situations"
"observe them in their family life(with their parents and siblings) "
3. be observant to your feelings.
4. ask for validation
of friends and loved ones(for me, better if your discipler or any spiritual mentors/parents)
"listen for other people's opinion but do not let them decide for you. "
5. seek the validation from the scriptures
"Do not be yoked together with unbelievers"-2Chor.6:14


PROPER REASONS FOR MARRIAGE
1. In love
2. have a family
3. companionship
4. partnership in godly child rearing


so...what do you think should be your purpose in marrying someone?
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POP QUIZ: (this is your own answer)
1. when is the right time to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend?
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2. what traits are you looking for the one whom you want to marry?
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3. when do you plan to get married and to have a family?
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4. what are the things that you still have to accomplish first before you enter marriage?
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for me, it is really a big decision to make when you are starting to a enter a relationship. remember, a mate can either make you or break you. so, make sure, that you really prayed for God's will, you are not deceived, you fell in love
NOT because of beauty (because if that is the case, the question is:what if the beauty faded?hmm..) there are a lot of things to be considered. not just because you feel good about it you'll go for it. the man/woman that you are going to choose must have a fear of the Lord, and he/she loves the Lord more than you. =))) and remember that the Lord who authored your life has better plans for you in his own perfect time...
"there is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven."-Ecc. 3:1


last thing: DO NOT LOOK FOR THE BEST PERSON, INSTEAD BE THE BEST PERSON FOR THAT SOMEONE WHOM GOD HAS PERFECTLY PREPARED FOR YOU.. ;))) I Pray that God will bless your journey! 
Above all else, guard your heart,
   for everything you do flows from it.-Pro.4:23